Cheating is inexcusable. Cheating hurts your partner. Cheating not only humiliates your partner, but also ruins their self confidence.
The youth today sadly glorifies infidelity, conveniently forgetting that it leads to broken homes, transmission of STIs, distrust amongst others.
Some guys cheat because of peer pressure. They want to belong so they do as their friends are doing so they can belong. Other guys cheat because getting the confirmation from other ladies makes them feel good.
Some guys simply cheat because they are plain immature and indecisive.
Now you find out your boyfriend is cheating. What do you do?
Every situation is different.
If you find out and he’s remorseful, it makes it easier to help him.
Some actually confess because they couldn’t live with the guilt. I think such men deserve a second chance. Forgive these men and help them.
Now, those who show no remorse and actually blame you for their act. That relationship needs to be weighed.
Never take blame for his actions. If he has an issue, he should be able to talk to you about it for the love of your relationship. If he doesn’t see any progress, for the respect he’d love to be given, he should just end the relationship and start a new one. You are not the cause of the problem.
Ladies, don’t go contacting the other lady, warning her to stay off your man. You and her have no business. It’s him you’re in a relationship with. Face him and confront him because he’s the one you have a relationship with. The other lady has her own issues.
Lastly, don’t just take an apology and let it rest because you love him. Make your own investigations. Why did he cheat? What role did your attitude play at that time? What exactly was his incentive? When was the incident? How long did it last?
These questions will help you determine whether or not you’ll stay with him.
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