Lately I have been at the giving side in most of my friendships and relationships. Giving in the form of advice, kind words, financial support, being physically and emotionally present etc.
I acknowledge the blessing in giving. I do believe as a Christian that it is more blessed to give than to receive. Yet, as human as I am, I sometimes feel used, taken advantage of. I even feel burnt out, left with no energy for myself
This write-up is to remind myself and everyone else in such a situation that we should never grow weary of doing good.
Yes, sometimes it gets hard when all your good deeds are thrown back in your face, unappreciated.
It hurts when you seem to get no help when you need it most. When you feel lonely at the time of your need.
When those you selflessly help boldly turn their backs on you when you need them.
There is one way to deal with the disappointment!
You do not seek rewards from people around you. When you give, give without expecting anything in return. This way, you spare yourself the disappointment and hurt because you had no expectations.
Moroever, your reward -the best reward – comes from God. He sees your heart and knows your thoughts. Give cheerfully. That is the bigger challenge!
So next time, when you feel like giving up on doing good, remember who you are doing it for. Remember that human rewards are nothing compared to heavenly rewards.
And do not forget to love yourself, too. “Love your neighbor as you love yourself”. You are commanded to take care of yourself first. That is the only way you can give sincerely.