Choose your battles wisely

Choose your battles wisely

You know how you want to get back at people for hurting you. How confusing it is when people you know are evil seem to be enjoying life without worries. You feel it’s your responsibility to ensure they feel pain or face difficulties?

Don’t waste your time on such people. Don’t waste your time on people who are already lost.

Truth of the matter is: they’re suffering. They’re temporarily great at hiding it. You’ll see them bearing the consequences of their actions without your help.

But most importantly, stop giving them your attention. Don’t wish them evil. Try to forgive them and channel your energy and time to yourself.

Concentrate on yourself. Fight battles that will lead you into victory. Find new challenges for yourself so you can progress.

When you are in an environment surrounded by people who don’t like you, don’t concentrate on them. Don’t allow their hateful attitude get to you.

If you can have a mature conversation with them to solve the issue, fine. But if not, simply reflect on how you can make things better. Instead of picking fights that drain you of your energy and make the situation worse, invest in yourself.

Make sure you do what you are supposed to do. Add value to yourself. This way, you earn their respect. Don’t waste your time beating yourself down. Use your time wisely. Look forward to overcoming challenges. Look forward to the better and stronger you.



One thing I’ve learned in life is not to give up your dreams for someone else.
Because they’ll let you down & you’ll regret the sacrifices you made for them.

Whatever changes occur in your life, whatever decisions you take, make sure you take these steps for you.
Make sure it benefits you.


5 Truths About Giving

5 Truths About Giving

How to Give:

1. With a cheerful heart, not grudgingly, Give out of your own free will.

2. Without expecting anything in return

3. With faith that you are giving something positive. Something does not have to be material. A smile, a prayer, time, all these can be given and can change situations for the better.

4. You can only give what you have. You cannot rob Peter to pay Paul, It usually does not end well. So, add value to yourself. Invest in yourself and share the profit with others.

5. Giving makes you fulfilled. You experience pure joy when you give.





Homosexuality. What does this term tell me? What do I associate with it? As a ‘straight’ person, as a practising homosexual or as a Christian? Homosexuality is not a ‘modern phenomenon’ as some think. It has been there at least for the past 2000 years. And yes, it has always been wrong in God’s eyes. (1 Tim 1:10). Now that’s for the Christian.
For the ‘straight’ person,  you are not any better than the homosexual. Why? ‘For all have sinned…’ In God’s eyes, there are no different ‘types’ or ‘sizes’ in sin. So just because your sin bears different consequences than your neighbor’s doesn’t make you better than they are. You shouldn’t make fun of them or make them feel bad. Mockery is never the way forward,  neither is hating nor punishing them with stigmatising. What you ought to do is love them, the individuals,  and pray for them.
Talk to them in love and plant the seed and leave it to grow. It won’t be in vain. Many homosexuals are forced to practise because of money or are being abused. Some do not know anything else. That’s why they need us to be there for them. Don’t forget to pray for yourself as well. It is not easy sticking to what the Bible says on homosexuality. Nevertheless,  you should make it clear that it is the act that is wrong and should be avoided but not the people practising it. God loves us all equally. Jesus was there for tax collectors and prostitutes,  whose position could be compared to today’s homosexuals. Hate the evil act, not the people.
To the homosexual, you’re still a child of God. He loves you, no matter how your past and present situations are. Think of your eternal life. Is it love you are getting from your partner? Anyone who truly loves you would be concerned about your welfare,  earthly and eternal. It is never too late. Whatever it is that you get from the homosexual relationship,  remember God says we should seek Him first and everything else will be given to you. He’ll supply your needs according to His riches. Overcome this challenge and experience the joy of being in sync with God.  


Challenge: Loving when you’re not being loved back.

Quick update on the forgiveness challenge: I’ve been able to totally forgive some people and not look back at what they did to me. It worked even better than I thought. This challenge has however opened my eyes to the kind of relationship I have with some people and how they actually see our relationship.

Some people will keep offending me because they do not value me the way I value them. I believe that friendship means wanting the best for the other, encouraging the growth of the friendship through actions. However, I’ve noticed that some people I call friends do not care about our friendship or about my welfare. They are not friends I can rely on. They do not put in any effect to help me when I need it. This is quite a disappointment for me because I try as much as possible to be there for them. I do not mind going out of my way to make a friend happy. I’m not saying this to boast. This is how I was brought up. This is who I’ve grown up to become. Another failed part is respect. Respect is reciprocal. But it seems some people have either missed this or successfully ignored it.


Now, how do I intend to deal with this? It hurts. It’s disappointing. It scares me from making new friends and trusting them. It scares me from being me, from giving my best at being  the good friend that I ought and want to be.

The best way, I’ve discovered,  is to limit such friendships. That doesn’t mean you’ve to become rude or mean. I’ll help when I am called to but I will try to keep my distance. It’s being close to the person that gets me hurt and disappointed so keeping my distance will keep the frequency low. And the distance and less hurting will help me forget the pain and forgive them. I don’t have to see them every time to be reminded of my pain. Limiting their access also helps you learn not to rely on them or expect anything from them.


Channel your energy where it’s needed. You derive motivation from that.

Had any experience with this issue? Share with me below! I need every tip that’ll make the forgiveness challenge go better where possible.

Thanks for reading!

Pray For Yourself

Pray For Yourself

An incident that happened early last month in Accra-Ghana sent chills down my spine. Four people died and thirteen others injured through a stampede in a church. It gets worse: they were rushing for holy water. (Details here and

Pause right there.

HOLY WATER? Which part of the Bible tells us Jesus left Holy Water for us or God gives us Holy Water?

Why should Christians die/perish in pursuit of God, if they’re not being persecuted? Why should men of God rather be worshipped? Why should you trust somebody’s prayers more than yours? Why do we fail to interprete the signs that are so clear? Why do we fail to acknowledge there’s a problem? Why can’t we identify something foul?

I am not here to condemn. I can’t condemn because I’m not God, neither can I judge. I can only try to discern as we’re told to do in Luke 12:56 and Hebrews 5:14.

The fact is, there are false prophets and pastors out there. We can’t deny it. We find idol worshipers coming out to declare how they’re actually the source of power and success of certain renowned pastors and prophets. And one interesting thing is, most of these pastors and prophets have not come out to deny these allegations.

It’s understandable that in times of trial it is hard to focus on such issues. But one thing worth considering is your eternal life. If you do prioritize your eternal life above the earthly life, which is very very hard to do but not impossible, you’ll be forced to analyse the authenticity of these pastors and their ‘prayer camps’.

Christians will perish less by opening their Bibles and building a personal relationship with God. Through Jesus’ sacrifice we have free access to God through Jesus (Hebrews 9). We don’t need any middlemen to intercede for us. Yes, we’re a royal priesthood (1 Peter 2:9) Jesus left His Holy Spirit with us, we are all entitled to it. He didn’t differentiate (John 14:26).

Build your own connection with God. Talk to Him everywhere. He’s omnipresent. Have faith in your relationship with Him. He says He’s faithful and just to forgive us. So your past, your guilty conscience don’t have a say. Do away with whatever is blocking you and God. Nothing should block the connection. Having established this connection, there’s no need to call upon a third party. Whatever bothers you is between you and your daddy – God.

And yes, save your money! Where in the Bible did the prophets and apostles charge people who came to them for help? You know something is wrong when you’re asked a list of items that have got nothing in common with your situation. There’s nothing wrong with being benevolent. But there’s a problem when you condone evil.

Stay in your bedroom and pray. Pray with your family. Pray with your spouse. Pray with your friends. Don’t run to any pastor or prophet to pray for you. Sister, Brother pray for yourself!